No Punishments, Many Rewards

I had started moving away from using punishments some time ago, for a combination of pragmatic and emotional reasons. Parenting-wise, 2013 was a difficult year for me, filled with intense sleep deprivation and a lot of mistakes (the two not being unrelated, obviously). It dawned on me slowly that time outs were not working to curb M’s aggressive behavior toward J, AND they were giving me intensely uncomfortable feelings, but I was really at a loss for what else to do. Still, I took one step in the direction of eliminating punishment: I quit using time outs.

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February 14, 2013
What’s Wrong With Breastfeeding?

Hey, want to know what I think of Mayor Bloomberg’s Latch on NYC initiative? Sure you do. My first reaction is: Oh, no — not another old white man telling women what to do with their bodies. Seriously??

If you haven’t heard this story, the mayor has suggested that hospitals should lock up formula and require that it be signed out by nurses before mothers use it to bottle feed in the hospital. What the Mayor of New York City has to do with breastfeeding I don’t really know, but if you ask me, until he has had a newborn baby depend on his man-boobs for sustenance he can Butt. Out.

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