Preemie Twins, Why It’s Important To Have Others Understand Your Journey

Sometimes, more than anything, at the end of a long day you just want to know that you aren’t the only one going through what you’re going through.

My twin babies that I was so ready for, came far too soon — at just 26 weeks. Those months after they came were so scary and filled with a swift education that I was so unprepared for then, and am so proud of now. My babies that were once so itty bitty, are now a fierce kindergarten duo that are on the move, demolishing the house on a daily basis and we’re working on tying their shoes. At the end of the day, after all of its said and done, there’s still one thing missing — my turn to be heard.

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A VBA2C Journey

It has been a very long road during this pregnancy. Having to switch providers at 28 weeks and “hunt” for one willing to support a Momma with a strong desire to VBA2C was no cake walk. I struggled with GD, controlled by high doses of insulin, 3 appts weekly 35 minutes from my home to get NSTs, u/s, and OB appts. Around 35 weeks I was hit with almost 10 days straight of Prodromal labor. Oh my I was so ready to to just give up… Our EDD wasn’t until May 28th and I was already starting to receive the “big baby” talks.

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No Punishments, Many Rewards

I had started moving away from using punishments some time ago, for a combination of pragmatic and emotional reasons. Parenting-wise, 2013 was a difficult year for me, filled with intense sleep deprivation and a lot of mistakes (the two not being unrelated, obviously). It dawned on me slowly that time outs were not working to curb M’s aggressive behavior toward J, AND they were giving me intensely uncomfortable feelings, but I was really at a loss for what else to do. Still, I took one step in the direction of eliminating punishment: I quit using time outs.

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